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First Time Second Time

~ Thoughts on relationships, roles, taking turns, gender and parenting from a queer family

First Time Second Time

Category Archives: Donor conception

Best mom ever

June 26, 2013

I have a confession to make. For a long time I was part of a two-mom family. My spouse and …

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Surprising connections might not be so surprising

October 3, 2011

As we’ve written about before, a big shift for our family over the last two years or so (about a …

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Donor Sibling Registry: yay or nay or …

September 26, 2011

About six years ago, I got pregnant after insemination with frozen donor sperm, and nine months later Lyn and I …

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Talking to kids about reproduction

June 2, 2011

[NOTE: It was blogging for lgbt families day yesterday! Finally, after about three years, we actually managed a post on …

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Review of Donor Unknown

May 9, 2011

Recently, we got to see the film Donor Unknown thanks to an online screening at the Tribeca Film Festival. Actually …

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An old scar, revisited

January 30, 2011

When Lyn was pregnant with Ira, I wrote about how talk about the donor, and about Leigh’s resemblance to me, …

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A few updates

December 22, 2010

We’re about to head off to visit family, likely continuing our current radio silence, so I wanted to get a …

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Thoughts on “The Kids Are All Right”

August 31, 2010

Lyn and I finally went out to see “The Kids are All Right” over the weekend. We got a babysitter …

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I read that donor conception report and lived to tell the tale

August 17, 2010

Well, I did it. Sort of. When I posted briefly about the “My Daddy’s Name is Donor” report by the …

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Family Week: Support, Advocacy, and Difficult Conversations

August 12, 2010

We recently came back from a terrific trip to Provincetown for Family Week. We had a great time and will …

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About Us

We are Gail, a queer mom, and Ezekiel, a trans dad, parents to Leigh (born 2006) and Ira (born 2009). We've been writing here about the challenging and amazing parts of queer parenting since 2008. Prior to Ezekiel's transition, we thought of ourselves as a two-mom family. We've preserved that writing under his old pseudonym Lyn and old posts by Gail. You can read more about us here.
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If you came here looking for information about trans* issues or transition, start with the post "Are we there yet?" and work your way forward or just poke around the "Transition" category.

If you want transition from the partner's point of view, check out the category "Trans* Partner."

If you are a non-gestational parent, we've written tons for you! You can follow the category "NGP issues".

If you are interested in induced lactation, see this wrap up post by Gail.

Categories

  • Before the baby
    • Another baby?
    • Pregnancy and birth
    • Trying to Concieve / Before Baby
  • Best of FTST
  • Coming out
  • Family of origin
  • Inducing lactation
  • Interacting with the world
  • Links and Reviews
  • Nursing and bottle feeding
  • Parenting
  • Queer & Trans* Families
  • Roles and Relationships
    • Donor conception
    • Gender
    • GP (gestational parent) issues
    • NGP (non-gestational parent) issues
    • Shared parenting
    • Siblings
  • Switching uteri
  • Trans* Partner
  • Transition
    • Physical transition
    • Social transition
    • Transition and Kids
    • Transition at work
    • Transition in LTR
  • Uncategorized
  • Work-Family issues

Archive

Blogroll

  • Adventures of a trans man
  • Bionic mamas
  • Breaking into blossom
  • Daddyhood Transcribed
  • Day daddy night daddy
  • Evolving gender
  • Insert metaphor
  • Joe's transition
  • Matt Kailey: Tranifesto
  • My life without tits
  • Neutrois nonsense
  • Planting rainbows
  • Queer dads
  • Queer rock love
  • Southeast soffa
  • The falco project
  • Visibly transparent

Resources for Trans* Partners

  • ’Is this the ‘New Normal?’ Suggestions for Coping with the Tough Parts of Your Partner’s Transition
  • ElectricDade (YouTube) YouTube channel of Dade, which also features videos by Dade’s wife Tiffany.
  • Elspeth Brown's Transpartner's Project This has a list of resources including academic papers and multimedia (video, etc.)
  • en|Gender Blog & resources, including forum & email list, for all, but leans toward partners of trans women
  • Everyday to Stay Short documentary by Chase Joynt about two couples in which one partner is an FTM man
  • FTMSweethearts YouTube collab channel featuring partners of trans men.
  • How to support FTM partner or SOFFA
  • My life with a transman Possibly abandoned blog by a partner of a transitioning man
  • Permission to Live Blog by former fundamentalist/quiverfull mom, now lesbian partnered trans woman parenting 5 kids.
  • TMatesFTM (YouTube) An active YouTube collab channel featuring partners of FTM people.
  • Trans-positioned by Loree Cook-Daniels Perspectives specifically for lesbian-identified partners of FTM men
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